Dating a recovering alcoholic women
I find it very frustrating because I am not ashamed of being sober. And furthermore, do you have any suggestions that I could use to make people feel more at ease with my sobriety? Americans in general claim that they accept that alcoholism is a disease, and accept AA.But, it seems many don’t want it to touch their lives.Educating yourself about addiction and recovery, and learning the dos and don’ts of dating someone with substance use disorder can help set your relationship up for success.With drinking so prevalent in dating culture, people who are in recovery often have to proclaim their sobriety early on.But putting things in such a neutral form would make it easier for others to accept — it doesn’t sound like you will be going to group meetings, objecting to others who drink, and so on — which in fact you don’t do. You could find people who, for other than reasons of being alcoholics, don’t drink. Stanton Peele, recognized as one of the world's leading addiction experts by The Fix, developed the Life Process Program after decades of research, writing, and treatment about and for people with addictions. But, if you date drinkers, make sure they are soundly moderate drinkers themselves — and that their lives don’t revolve around alcohol. AA has done such a good job of selling alcoholism as an uncontrollable disease, maybe people believe that you can just slip off (like Lee Remick in Days of Wine and Roses) into oblivion.
I have found that time and time again I will be having a great discussion with someone and my sobriety will come up, and it pretty much ends all relations.
People drink for a variety of reasons — to escape their pain, to be more outgoing, to relax — and top among them is to connect with other people more easily.
Yet, the connection that comes when you’re both sporting a buzz isn’t the real deal.
Dear Stanton, I hope this is a question you can field, I didn’t see one like it with the others.
I am a twenty-three year old college student, who has been recovering from alcoholism for over two years.