Dating advice for single pastors

Is there such a thing as “too fast” in Christian dating?

How do you know if a dating relationship is moving too quickly emotionally, or too quickly toward marriage?

And so I think the church really serves and helps Christian singles consider marriage and consider dating.

And I think those pieces are a much safer gauge than whether they highlight passages in their Bible and show up to service every week.

We have a staff person here who met and married her husband in a matter of months. I hardly knew they were dating before they were engaged.

In your experience, in what ways has technology changed the way young people date today? If we are talking about a young man and a young woman who are actively dating, who have defined their relationship, and who know they are in a growing and committed relationship with one another, then I think technology creates an avenue to encourage one another and to connect more frequently.

If the relationship is outpacing knowledge of character, reputation, and knowledge of godliness, then that is way too quick.

But if you are in a context in which you have watched the person’s godliness, you have marveled at their character, you have rejoiced in what God has done in them and through them, then speed isn’t a big factor. What drove the speed wasn’t a flare-up of emotions — it wasn’t a fear of loneliness, or desperation, like maybe this is my only shot. Rather, there was knowledge of his faithfulness to God, his desire to serve the Lord, and his seriousness about the things of God.

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