Dating difficult people
One way, he says, is to slow the rhythm of your communication with a problem person.
He uses the example of a friend with a demanding thesis supervisor who would send frequent and unfriendly emails at all hours of the day and night.
There are the backstabbers, the condescenders, the credit stealers and, of course, those who act like angels when the boss is around and turn sour as soon as she’s gone.
“Everyone can be a jerk under the right or wrong circumstances.
Rather than respond immediately, the friend would delay writing back, effectively taking some control over the pace of the negativity.
Sutton also recommends practising what he calls “mind tricks to protect your soul.” If you’re in a meeting presided over by a jerk, try temporal distancing: imagine yourself in the not-so-distant future, somewhere far away from the current situation.
“When I interviewed for the position, she seemed totally fine,” says Berube. She was in a senior position so felt she had some sway.
She contemplated suggesting her boss get management training, but a leadership consultant she spoke to cautioned her against wasting her energy on someone who had already shown they wouldn’t pay attention.
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