Dating someone with anorexia

So it stands to reason that you must treat your relationship with someone who is recovering from an eating disorder in the same way.Contrary to what the media would have you believe, feeling good in your body and solid in your nutrition and exercise is not predicated on talking about food and fitness all day.However, you can learn to express your excitement by channeling that energy into something you can do together, like a movie night or a trip to a karaoke bar.If that doesn’t seem like something you can do – – then you and your partner might need to have a conversation about ending the relationship.

Think about it this way: Casually talking about your diet, your weight, or your workouts can be as triggering to an eating disordered partner as casually telling a rape joke in front of a partner who has been raped or sexually assaulted (and I’m going to make the bold assumption that you’re not the kind of person who thinks it’s a good idea to casually make rape jokes in the first place).Yet our first-world culture is obsessed with talking about body image, weight, workouts, and what we ate on Wednesday.I challenge you to find one office kitchen in the United States in which coworkers don’t spend their lunch hours commiserating over the last five pounds while eating stale cookies from yesterday’s meeting.But for day-to-day food weirdness, it’s not your job to decide how many cookies do or do not get eaten.The recovered individual gets to find his or her own path and learn how to become comfortable eating around others, one strange meal at a time.

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