Daughter is dating a older man
Before long, we had our own inside jokes, a shared eye-roll at yet another lover's quarrel in a small space. We talked about music, about high school, his experience then and mine now. By the time you settle down together, he’ll have amassed a bunch more life experiences than you (he’s had like 20 extra years).Your life will end up being smaller in comparison since your shared years will make up far more of your total life experience than his.
My best friend was 14 when she fell in love with a 21 year old. My friend's older boyfriend was close with a guy I'll call T. My mother, spying him from the front window, asked me how old he was.
(I know how that sounds: I cringe now just typing it.) But at the time, to us, it wasn't weird or taboo as much as this epic, forbidden romance. Before long we were all hanging out together, driving around in his car: T and me in the front, my friend and her boyfriend in the back.
While they made out, we made conversation, thrown together in the awkwardness of nearby coupledom.
He, in turn, went to find my friend and her boyfriend, who were none too pleased at having to leave so soon after we got there. Just like that, you lose your footing, and you're in over your head. He noticed my sudden distance and pouted, unsettling to see in an adult. It seemed just about every woman I knew had a similar story, a time when wanting attention meant getting the wrong kind entirely.
Hearing that he wanted more felt like wading into the deep end. had feelings for me, I felt strange every time I saw him. As I got older, however, the more I realized that my experience was not an uncommon one.