Dealing online dating rejection
It is important to engage in the online dating process with the right mindset and be prepared for the unexpected without engaging in negative self-talk.
Focusing on staying positive can make online dating a fun and productive process.
Online dating has grown increasingly popular among all ages for a number of reasons.
Having the ability to scroll through potential matches literally anywhere as long as you have your phone is extremely convenient and saves time.
It can act as a buffer if you experience anxiety when meeting someone new face-to-face.
The list of benefits goes on, but unfortunately, online dating doesn’t come totally without consequence.
If you’re a normal human being with a pulse, you probably do. Majority of the time that someone turns you down for a date, it has little to nothing to do with you.
Sometimes they’ve had a bad day, sometimes they don’t feel like talking to someone, sometimes they’re already talking to someone, sometimes, they’re not in the mood…this is just a preliminary list of reasons that someone may not be responding to your messages or may not be interested in getting to know you better.
When you ask someone out, and they say no, do you automatically assume it’s because they don’t like you?
The greater that you think someone is or that your mind makes them out to be, the more it hurts when they aren’t interested. Allow the person to be who they really are and stop letting your daydreaming get you in trouble. Yes, it’s easier said than done, but it’s also easily conquered. Right on the first message unless you are the luckiest person on the planet.
Realize that it’s not person, keep your head up, and move on to someone else that feels the same way about you that you do about them. That means you’re going to have to go through some no’s to get to the yes’s.
They’ll have one conversation with a person, look through their pictures, read their profiles, and suddenly decide they are the man or woman of their dreams.
Their minds will make assumptions and will always make the assumption that fits their fairytale narrative the best.