Is dating multiple people at once okay
‘Don’t ask, don’t tell’ (but don’t lie either) may be the kindest approach. After all, until there’s a relationship, it’s just friendship – and how can it be wrong to be friends with more than one person? In reality, I struggle to focus clearly on more than one potential love interest at a time.More importantly, there’s the issue of protecting each other’s hearts.And if you've got the kind of girl who reeeeeally isn't looking for exclusivity, she doesn't want you barfing your gross emotion germs all over her. I'm pretty sure that the bat and the pig that combined viruses to make The Contagion met on e Harmony and that I've had sex with them both.Done responsibly, dating a lot of women is no longer considered outré.
My grandmother was less than understanding about it."You should be dating a BUNCH of guys," she said, and held up a picture of one of her pretty sisters, as a teenager. It was jarring to find out that our great aunt had basically spent her youth as the whore of Babylon. You're going to date Veronica _and _her best friend Cheryl Blossom? But for those of us still single, relad ideas about monogamy and the facility of the Internet have produced a new golden age of slutty aunts.
I once accepted a second date with a sweet, shy chap I’ll call Author Man.
Then I heard from Cheeky Man, a bright, funny guy I’d been chatting to online and then bumped into at a Christian festival.
"Sophie used to go with one boy Friday, another Saturday, and another on Monday."My sister and I exchanged looks. (Although, I guess she broke for Sunday, so there was that.)I don't know if it's because of Cameron Crowe movies or disease panic or protracted adolescence, but my generation believed that when you really liked somebody, you should like them solely and exclusively, even obsessively. I know guys who date multiple women like they're filling out an elimination bracket, and I know guys who date multiple women because they get easily bored by one set of nipples.
If a guy gave you a mix CD of Radiohead songs because it felt like giving you "a pint of his own blood," and then he gave girl a pint of his own blood, it sort of cheapens the gesture. More and more people I know prefer dating a bunch of people to one; you can be suspended in a kind of single-but-not animation that used to be reserved for old bachelors of indeterminate sexual orientation, and not be considered a jerky health risk.